Moslems are to forgive and apologize with each other especially when Hari Raya is approaching. It is the platform. But what happens when an initially ‘Selamat Hari Raya Maaf Zahir Batin’ greeting then become the token of creating another friendship-severing atmosphere? Irony, right? I don’t know. Maybe that is always instilled inside of me but for me, if I believe I did nothing wrong, I will let it go pass by. BUT if I were the one who caused the dissatisfaction and is the guilty party, I will TRY MY BEST to solve it immediately without any further ado or hesitance.
I guess people in this world come with different quality;
- Some are just come with filthy-mouth and fire up on the spot and didn’t give a damn about it later on;
- Some are vindictive and seek pleasure in tormenting others;
- Some are born with soft spots to make peace with everyone as to seek solace from God.
Unfortunately (or fortunately; I am not sure), I am the 3rd kind. I have bent my ego and myself to inquire the well-being of the other party. But yeah, not everyone is born with the same quality. I’ve been :
- Called “sewel” and “tak reti adab” just because I was adamantly on calling a friend early in the morning to explain the situation;
- I’ve been ignored although I humbled myself to explain;
- I’ve been vented out that “sins between men and God could be forgiven because God is Merciful but not men-to-men because men do not forgive easily.”
Yes, it hurts. But I do believe I have done my part as a Moslem. And it all started from a “Selamat Hari Raya Maaf Zahir Batin” FB comment which then leading to him being irritated of me calling him trying to explain and leading to severing the friendship! Amazing isn’t it? Especially when you think how a “MAAF ZAHIR BATIN” comment could lead to another friendship-severing tragedy? It’s sad but being cliche Shahrill, it is not my conscience to trigger animosities.
I guess the other party could say anything to manipulate the situation but in the end, I believe Allah SWT knows the situation. After all, if a friend of ours Nor Muhammad (Cikgu Mad) could forgive him for what he had done, doesn’t it a bit tacky for him to NOT FORGIVING me for disturbing his sleep early in the morning? But I guess maybe it wasn’t just about calling my friend early in the morning. Maybe it’s the embedded anger being repressed all this while. Maybe. But yes, it is everyone’s prerogative. It’s just me and my conscience to become a good Moslem. With these flaws, I am still learning.
P/S : But Of course, this is ONLY applied for friendships!! For my EX-es (not that many! Less than 3), I never forget.