Delving into BDSM realm is a taboo. Unspoken sexual fetishes and controversial to the eyes of orthodox conventions. I have certain affinity to the genre. The thought is simply freeing. But does that means I have ever committed that? I let the intelligent minds to decipher that; after all, assumptions engender rumours and rumours entails lies. But of course, this entry isn’t to discuss my own personal lifestyle. It’s about a controversial book revolves around that taboo genre – “50 Shades Of Grey.”
Bloggers who love this novel are fuming rumours to pitch Angie into directing this novel into silverscreen. I don’t think so. I don’t think it’s a masterpiece. Oh, well…. perhaps because I am not a woman.
BDSM is a fascinating subject for me. Angie also finds it interesting. I can’t explain it here and I wouldn’t want to explain about myself. But I can equate my idea as tantamount to what Angie said regarding this bizarre sexual fetishes. Perhaps it’s because we are Gemini? :
“S&M sex can be misinterpreted as violence. It’s really about trust. I like to push boundaries, both emotional and sexual, with another person. That’s when I’ve felt the sexiest. I’ve been in both submissive and dominant roles because I want more.”
Honestly, I never heard about the book until one of my FB friends jokingly suggested me reading the book when I was updating my status pertaining “Life Of Pi”. Out of curiosity, I resorted to Wikipedia and I was a bit puzzled to know that this is actually a best-seller BUT it revolves around EXPLICIT sexual contents. And what’s more, the gist is about BDSM (Bondage, Discipline/Dominance, Sadism & Masochism), an eerie sexual ritual that is totally taboo and alien to the conventional “vanilla” intercourses. Hmmm…interesting. Nevertheless, I wasn’t really excited about it (yet curious) UNTIL I saw the book on a shelf in TIMES, Pavillion. I just grabbed it and was eager to know – what is it about this novel that makes people keep saying about it? Of course, I didn’t buy it at the counter. Someone who is dear was nonchalant about it, take my money and paid at the counter on my behalf. Hahhaa!
Anyway, back to the novel. The first few chapters were quite mundane for me as usually, my kind-of-readings are on horror-and-killing (Stephen King), mystical-and-fantasy (J.K. Rowling) or corporate dramas (Ayn Rand); NEVER a women’s fantasies novel! The narration of the few chapters mainly dwelt on the protagonist (Anastasia Steele)’s fascination to the hero, Christian Grey. It’s all about the “tousled hair” (over and over again!), “the piercing eyes”, “the hot body”, etc. Basically it’s like reading a romantic film’s script; with all the emotional (heart palpitation, fantasy-of-smooching-in-the-mind) trivials as accessories to the narration. Sorry, but I was a bit bored…..
I always picture Anne Hathaway as Anastasia Steele while reading “50 Shades of Grey”. I think she exudes that naivety yet at the same time the unquenchable thirst for adventure. I think she looked the part as per these pictures of her in GQ magazine.
Nevertheless, when it comes to the dynamic sequences between the two characters engaging in their sexual explorations, I felt that it was great, as in like this is something unique; never ever been touched by other novels – a new taboo mysterious genre embroidered into a thriller. Honestly, I’ve learned quite a number of BDSM terminologies from this novel such as :-
- Genital clamps;
- Hot wax;
- Nipple clamps;
- Bondage with shackles/manacles
; and in addition to that is the idea of having SAFE WORDS while engaging in that sexual rendezvous. ‘Safeword” is a sort of code word known by the parties involving in that scenes to tone the act down or stop as either of the parties couldn’t take the impact anymore. Usually, it involves boundary-crossing by either one of the parties involved.
It’s Christian Bale for the character Christian Grey. Coincidentally the first name is the same; but I can’t help but to imagine that an aloof billionair with bizarre sexual fetish ala American Psycho (by the way, his film no less) in the form of Batman Bale!
Next, is the existence of “Hard Limit”, “Soft Limit” & “Negotiations”. “Hard Limit” are the lists of limitation that are agreeable by people involved in the sexual scenes. It is definitely a No-No; “Soft Limit” are limitations that are agreeable but could be bent as per the situations or if so happen that the party who set the rule wants to cross the boundary by challenging him/herself; “Negotiations” is a discussion of terms and conditions/ rules and regulations applied for the parties involved prior to the sexual acts.
Honestly, I’ve tap a few new information from this novel!
Nonetheless, how do I rate the novel? If you ask me honestly, the novel isn’t that hot as what it is claimed. Possibly it is because of the BDSM genre as it touched on taboo topics that people were excited and thrilled about the novel. It is perceived as quite daring and ‘fresh’; away from the conventional romance usually cater for women’s fantasies of romantic sexcapades. Other than that, it is just a mediocre and over-rated.
I honestly loathed the protagonist’s (Anastasia Steele) sexual desire of becoming a sex slave to pompous Dominant (Christian Grey). I mean, come on! Don’t you have dignity??? Stand up bitch! Then again, the book is about a Submissive finding herself; so, that explained everything. But for me, if this happened in real life – will you ever risk of trading the virginity for the sake of this hopeless relationship; I would say, such a wasted idea. The Christian Grey’s character NEEDS to be punished VIGOROUSLY!
Nevertheless, I LIKE the finale of this novel where Anastasia Steele decided to uproot her dignity rather than cooped up within her sexual intensities. I never expect the ending of this first book to be like that; but it was a nice twist. But of course, this is the first of the trilogy. I read the synopsis of the other two novels and predictably, the two characters still continue their sexual enigma with some dramas.
So, the question is, will I ever read the other two “Fifty Shades Darker” and “Fifty Shades Freed”? So far, maybe no. The lovey-dovey romantic-ness is too much for me as E.L. James, the writer built this novel from her fanfiction writing for Twilight series (and I am not into that Vampire-ish nonsensical dramas…sorry; no offences to the fans!). But who knows in the future? I am not rejecting possibilities.
And not to forget, my favourite author, Ayn Rand actually devoured on BDSM ages ago. Her “Randian” heroins like Dagny Taggart of ‘Atlas Shrugged’ (I named my car after her) & Dominique Francon of “The Fountainhead” were BDSM fetishes. But I have to say the way Ayn Rand narrated the sexual fetishes is classier than “50 Shades Of Grey.” Sorry, no offence, once again!
In a nutshell, love the intensity of Bondage in “50 Shades Of Grey” but other than that, it is merely a “vanilla” women’s fantasy novel. Nothing else. (,”)