SHOCKING! That was my first reaction when I saw the front page of The Star at Al-Madinah Restaurant in Rawang while sipping the “teh tarik” for breakfast! A Malaysian parents are detained in Sweden for allegedly “beating” the children for not praying and since laws in Sweden ‘protects’ children from any form of corporal punishment, physical abuse or public humiliation, etc; the parents are separated from the children, arrested and being kept remanded for a month; with now only 2 weeks left before the hearing taking place.
The Star front page this morning. I was mortified and all agog!
This must be quite an eye-opener for all of us Asians as we believe that disciplining the hardest way is the best way to mould us into great characters of obedience. Though cliche but it’s true that old school works. By learning the hard way, we realize it was all for the best. When children are never introduced with punishment, the sentiment of “I-can-do-whatever-I-want” emerges and you can see that among the Malaysian school kids these days as various laws are being introduced and imposed to “protect the kids” from these; YET social illnesses are rampant up to the point of uncontrollable as these spoilt brats are being pampered!
The 33 countries who reportedly ban any corporal punishments or physical “disciplining” for children! So think careful before deciding to migrate to these countries! Yikes!
So happened that on 1st July 1979, Sweden implemented the laws of to prohibit any “spanking, slapping, smacking, pinching, hair-pulling, whipping, paddling – corporal punishment by any name or means is prohibited in Sweden, both at home and in school.” (According to http://sweden.se/society/smacking-banned-since-1979/). With that, it marks approximately 30 years of the prohibition, engendering a generation of kid who have never been spanked (REFER TO : http://edition.cnn.com/2011/11/09/world/sweden-punishment-ban/)!!! Now, I am not a legal expertise and I am not going to etch anything legislative acts or whatsoever but all I can say, I just disagree with it because as a teacher, I feel that punishment and disciplining are necessary in nurturing the kids into well-behaved individuals. It is insane and brainless if no punishment are implemented at all; ridiculous and nonsensical! Kids will go over the board; someone’s gotta man them up and tell the wrongdoings!
Apparently, a research by Robert E Larzelere, an Associate Professor of Psychology from University of Nebraska Medical Center entitled “Sweden’s Smacking Ban : More Harm Than Good” which happened to be published by The Christian Institute has argued and concurred that it did more harm than good (REFER TO : http://www.christian.org.uk/pdfpublications/sweden_smacking.pdf). What is more; in Islam itself, parents have the responsibility of canning and beating their children if the children refuse to perform prayer AFTER a few persuasions – in short, the parents MUST do it; it is their obligations to the religion; as per a Hadith by Hadith – Dawud, Narrated As-Saburah :-
“The Prophet said: Order your children to pray at the age of seven. And beat them [lightly] if they do not do so by the age of ten. And separate them in their bedding.”
Islam is a religion which encompasses every aspects of life; foods consumption, sexual mannerism, attitudes to the elders, respecting the non-Moslem & heathens, etc and disciplining children is one of those guidelines passed down from generation to generation (REFER TO : http://muttaqun.com/children.html)! And it is crystal clear that what Mr Azizul Raheem Awalludin, The Director of Tourism Malaysia in Sweden & his wife, Mrs Shalwati Nurshal did was no wrong when they beat one of their children for not wanting to pray as it was part of disciplining the kids into becoming a better Moslem when they grow up, isn’t it?
The detained parents; Mr. Azizul Raheem Awalludin & Mrs. Sister Shalwati Nurshal. May ALLAH SWT bless them! Amin!
But of course unfortunately, when the essence of traditional religion is contradictory to the secular laws of a nation that is widely known for its Islamophobia (REFER TO : http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Racism_in_Sweden) and brutalities against women which inspired one of my most favourite novels of all time, the Millenium trilogy novels by Swedish author Stieg Larsson (REFER TO : https://undomiel84.wordpress.com/2012/10/03/vendetta-for-femina-justice-against-sexual-sadism-the-girl-with-the-dragon-tattoo-by-stieg-larsson/); the secular will of course supersedes the religion and what’s more for a religion that is so infused with hatred and prejudices, right?
Story unraveled that one of the children probably seemed a little bit distraught as school and confessed to a teacher when he was asked and told that his parents did beat him because he didn’t pray. So, the teacher told the counsellor and the rest was history. Police report was lodged as ‘no spanking or physical touch is allowed’ and the parents now are detained. The children are now placed under the care of a non-Moslem foster house where there is a dog and the utensils used are the same as the ones the foster family use for preparing their Non-Halal meals.
The Instagram of the daughter.
For Non-Moslems who are still in the dark about this statement, please be noted that this is not due to “segregation due to religion”; it is purely due to the fact that utensils that are used for Non-Halal food preparation MUST NOT BE THE SAME with the ones to be used for Halal. If one persists, then the utensils must be washed 7 times with clay mixture via a process called “Samak”.
A gift from the children to the parents. Perhaps this is both a test and lesson for them to appreciate the loves of their parents? God knows. Everything happens for reasons, no?
So far, it is reported that the children were unhappy and desperately wanted to be reunited with the parents as well as the relatives from Malaysia flew to Sweden BUT was denied by the Swedish authority! It is kind of sad to know that this thing happens; looks like living abroad is no always bed of roses, huh? So far until today, it is reported that the Malaysian Government has sent some officers to “look into this matter”; and seriously I hope that the public outcry will push the Government to at least negotiate or persuade the Swedish Government to consider the matter diplomatically.
Amin. My prayers to you Brother Azizul Raheem Awalludin & Sister Shalwati Nurshal. Amin Ya Rabbal Alamin.